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HelenaHotzl — Mon, 27 Feb 2012 23:40:48 +0000

Just want to check in as I haven´t been able to for a while….I had some tough times honestly…

It has been way to many people that I loved and cared for that past away and some other things that was not too good so I guess I just needed to get some energy! I guess we all go thru that from time to time…

The need of just being with people that gives energy and just to take each day as it comes even though we all have a lot of “must do things” on our schedule!

See you soon!

Panic…. :)

HelenaHotzl — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 13:30:44 +0000

Anais Nin

Found this quote from Anais Nin…

“Anxiety is love’s greatest killer. It makes others feel as you might when a drowning man holds on to you.

You want to save him, but you know he will strangle you with his panic.” — Anais Nin

I have some thoughts about why some of us are so afraid about loving? Why we get panic? Why we get so scared about the feelings as it feels as if we are suffocating
I smile because I have been there….
Love to hear your thoughts and feedback on this!

Today’s Beauty Tip!

AngelaPaul — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:50:51 +0000

@DHC’s Deep Cleansing Oil and Olive Virgin Oil moisturizer are my recipe for radiant, glowing skin any time of the year!!

The Journey by Mary Oliver

AngelaPaul — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:16:49 +0000

This poem by Mary Oliver is one of my all time favorite poems that I read over and over and never fails to shake me to my core. We are all on our own unique journey and we may get encouragement and support from other’s along the way. But it is that small voice within that will lead you where you need to go. We may not be sure where the voice will lead us, but when we are willing “to save the one life you could save,” we are holding firm to the most sobering truth of all: no one can walk our path for us, and we cannot walk the journey for another.

“One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice –

though the whole house began to tremble and you felt the old tug at your ankles.
“Mend my life!”each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do, though the wind pried with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations, though their melancholy was terrible.
It was already late enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen branches and stones.
But little by little, as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice which you slowly recognized as your own,
that kept you company as you strode deeper and deeper into the world,
determined to do the only thing you could do–

determined to save
the only life you could save.”

HelenaHotzl — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 09:39:38 +0000

”If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.”

~Tallulah Bankhead

I found this quote today and loved it….I look back at my life and smiles.. I don´t regret a thing. Because everything that I went thru made me the person I am today… The men I lost, the love that did not work out, the pain and all that comes with life…..And the one that I am today is the one that I feel comfortable with….

I was so afraid of feelings. Went thru to much pain. As I became older I realized that it was not the men I met in my life that was afraid of feelings. I was the one that was afraid….Suddenly I saw myself….and realized why I had been so afraid of letting anyone come closer.
I scared them away….as It was the easiest way to not being hurt again.
Sometimes we have to wake up and see ourselves……Even if it takes a lifetime!

My illustration here is called ” One night only“.

It´s about a women that never get what she wants….when it comes to men….but the problem is that she is probably so afraid
for love so she keeps on falling for the ones that does not want her…

Do you recognize yourself?

The Green Eyed Monster!

AngelaPaul — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 21:18:55 +0000

Do you think women are generally supportive of each other, or are we socially wired to be competitive, envious and jealous? I have healthy, mutually supportive relationships with dear women in my life, but I have also experienced both sides of the green eyed monster.

When I feel envy or jealousy poisoning my mind I try and step back and ask myself some hard questions. I ask myself why I am feeling lack and stagnant in my own life. I then try and focus on what I need to change in my thinking and in my life instead of wasting energy comparing myself to someone who “appears” to have it all. It’s tough work, but very effective in restoring peace and sanity to my troubled mind.

What has served me the most however, is the deep conviction that there is absolutely no competition in Spirit. When someone else gets to shine it does not mean you won’t. We each have our own unique talents and qualities that is incumbent upon us to shine into the world. No one else can do what you do, in the way you alone can do it. Do your part, quit obsessing about what someone else is doing, and the universe will supply the rest. If something belongs to you, it will come to you. And if not, then it just didn’t have your name on it. Life becomes a lot more easy going living from this view point.

I have also been on the other side of envy and jealousy, and that doesn’t feel good either. It says more about the woman doing the envying than it does about me. That said, I have let go of unhealthy relationships when the energy became toxic and draining. Sometimes self-love and self-care calls for letting go and moving on. When a friend’s perception of us is so tainted by their own distorted lens, envy and jealousy will always be reflected back. I am all for supporting and encouraging each other because that’s what true friendship is all about.

There are no winners when you feel you have to play small so a “friend” can feel better about them self. We may not get to choose our next of kin, but we do get to choose our friends. Let’s do our best to build ourselves and each other up, because we need all the help we can get!

Don’t Get Old In Your Head!

AngelaPaul — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 00:16:52 +0000

The problem for many women is that they get old in their heads first. Despite our fervent attempts to deny our aging, every year we all get older. The issue is whether you are going to get OLD!
Aging is a natural part of life, so the sooner you can relax and accept that fact, the more pleasurable your experience of aging will be. Sure, at times it may also be fraught with some of the hard stuff in life, but that’s just part and parcel of the human experience.
Life is short and over far too soon. Why waste time worrying and obsessing over something we ultimately have no control over. Why not use that energy to enjoy the life you are fortunate to still have.
The beauty secret that will serve you the most is the knowledge that while superficial beauty may fade over time, beauty derived from wisdom, laughter, joy, and experience does not.
It’s not about whether you can compete in the looks department with women decades younger than you- that’s easy these days with Botox and fillers etc. I’m talking about the light and glow in your smile, and the intelligence and sparkle in your eyes. It’s about the confidence of knowing who you are in the deepest sense. That’s what sets us apart!

Why do women stay ……

AngelaPaul — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 19:54:12 +0000

“Why do women stay in relationships when they do not feel truly valued and cherished? If you have to constantly second guess your partner’s love, why stay. Words are lovely but actions are what count. Behind the myriad of surface reasons why women stay, the main reason is that they don’t value themselves enough. We really do teach people how to treat us, especially men, so choose your partner wisely and teach them well!”

Angela Paul

Just a little note to keep you all warm….

HelenaHotzl — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 23:43:00 +0000

As Angela says it was a great start and I loved the reaction from people. Also the ones that was judgmental towards our site.

“Kind of easy when they look like them…don’t you think..”

As an answer to that I would like to say…

Don’t judge your neighbor until you learn to know them…

This is something’s about me:

I started my grown up life with the pain of being raped. And the man that came into my life after that forgot

that he had a woman and a house in another country.

I can assure that that is nothing that makes one feel beautiful. Not at all…. it was an answer to me that

I was not worthy the love of a man and that I must have been the ugliest woman in the world….

Today I know better and I see things easier… It’s all about “looking at ourselves in the mirror” without any judgmental words from others and see who we are.

What we believe in and what we can do to learn to love the most beautiful thing that was given to us…ourselves.

Angela and I knows that we cannot solve anyone’s problems…that is not what we are here for but we believe that if we share our lives and believes

that is a good tool to start.

So…a happy beginning and lots of love to you!!

PS:And guys…Do excuse my grammar failures:) But we can check later how your swedish is doing? Just kidding you!

Helena

Here we go…

AngelaPaul — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 22:53:06 +0000

Dear amazing fellow Goddesses, we are off to a great start! Helena and I have had a wonderful response to our blog, and want to thank everyone for your early support and encouragement.

Thought for today:
Speaking up and saying what we truly feel is one of the things many women struggle with. We fear being judged and criticized, and are made to feel wrong for saying what is on our minds. This in turn leads to internalized resentment and anger, which often manifests into illness.
Fortunately, one of the positive side affects of aging is that as we get older (and wiser) we begin to care less about what people think of us.
Freedom can only come when we care more about what WE think rather than what others think. What matters most is YOUR opinion of yourself, not someone else’s.

We give away our power when we let other’s opinions define our value and self-worth. So go within, consult with your inner “Wise Woman,” and know what is the truth for you. Then SPEAK OUT! Speak even if your body quivers and your voice shakes. You will be amazed at how light you feel when you give voice to that which needs to be expressed. Some people will love you for it, some won’t. That’s just the way it is. Again, welcome to our site and let your voice be heard right here!